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The Flying Man

Really interesting short.  Feels like and extended preview but I would pay to see a feature length version of the idea.

Read more about it here; ‘The Flying Man’ Short Delivers A Cool, Creepy Take On The Superhero Genre — The Joodlum Group.

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Posted by on December 9, 2013 in Videos


Monogamy – Destined to fail?

1414425_74248645This morning Kitty pointed me to this video of Dan Savage talking about the ridiculousness of monogamy.  I started watching the video with some trepidation.  Although I consider myself polyamorous, I’m not one of those people who considers themselves somehow superior for being so.  I also don’t like people who spout the superiority line.  But this video wasn’t about that.  It is more about the myth of how rigid monogamy has to be in order to work.  That it’s all or nothing.  Savage asserts that this concept of rigid monogamy is actually a problem and detriment to sustaining long-term relationships.  Rigidity doesn’t allow for flexibility, mistakes, or slip-ups.  He doesn’t go as far as advocating polyamory as an alternative.  That’s good because poly is not for everyone.

I consider myself innately polyamorous.  Much like bisexuality, from the moment i realized others were attractive and that I wanted to be with them I knew I would never be content with just one.  That being said, until recently, I’ve been monogamous for over the last ten years.  TEN YEARS.   Yeah, for the record poly people are not constantly screwing multiple partners.  This ten plus year hiatus was not of my choosing or by HB’s request.  It seems that I just lack that certain je ne sais quoi to attract additional partners.  That may be changing but that’s not the point.  The point, monogamous for ten years; didn’t like it one bit.  Now don’t get me wrong, I love HB with all my heart and the mere thought that there may be a time when I’d have to live without him makes me teary.  Doesn’t mean I don’t want more than him, just means I don’t value him less because of it.

How did I survive without going nuts or hooking up with a booty call?  I think its because we don’t operate like a “normal” couple, besides the fact that he has another partner.  One of the main things is he doesn’t get upset if I look at someone else.  I can oogle someone famous or not and the worst that will happen is he will tease me about it.  And that’s only because he knows I’ll get all embarrassed and flustered and he finds that incredibly endearing and funny.  However I’ve seen so many talk shows where the man or woman is losing their mind if their partner so much as looks at another person, no matter how long they have been in a relationship.  And heaven forbid they talk to this other person or have any friends of the opposite gender.  These men and women seem to be spending their whole relationship being constantly on guard for any man or woman attempting to connect with their one true.  Now I know talk shows are extreme but I’ve seen many real life examples as well.  People willing to throw away years of love, fidelity, shared life, just because they see their partner talking to someone else or standing too close to a person.  And heaven forbid you slip, even a little; a wandering eye, an intimate conversation, a kiss, a one night stand.  Then it’s all your stuff on the front lawn and call the lawyers.

Is this what monogamy means?  If so I understand why those relationships don’t last, too stressful, too hard to maintain.

I’m not saying that the solution is polyamory, I’m just saying Dan Savage may have a point.  Because in the end isn’t monogamy more about maintaining a long-term (hopefully lifelong) relationship with one person and not about fulfilling a rigid, near impossible standard?



Posted by on July 3, 2013 in introspective, Videos, Writing


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Defyer of the Norm – Rob Finley

When you think of activism, what’s the first things that pop into your mind; marches, protests, signing petitions?  Rob Finley is not that kind of activist.  He fights the problem of the lack of healthy food, sustainable food, in his community without marches or protests.  You know how he does it?  To paraphrase Mr. Finley,  “he plants some shit.”

Below is Mr. Finley’s T.E.D. Talk of the struggle, success, and dreams of bringing South Central Los Angeles out of a food desert.  A place he calls the “home of the drive-thru and the drive-by. Funny thing is, the drive-thrus are killing more people than the drive-bys.”  Through humor, visuals, and just straight talk, he shows how and why this needs to change, and most importantly what he’s doing about it.  Below are some of my favorite quotes from the talk.

“Gardening is the most therapeutic and defiant act you can do, especially in the inner city. Plus you get strawberries.”

“If kids grow kale, kids eat kale.”

“The funny thing about sustainability is that you’ve got to sustain it.”

But please don’t take my word for it.  Watch the video below, then go out, pick up a shovel, and plant some shit.

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Posted by on May 13, 2013 in Activism, Defyer of the Norm, Videos


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Never changing who I am

Today has a theme song, It’s Time by Imagine Dragons.  Eight months (eight months and four days to be exact) ago I was emotionally near rock bottom.  I was sick with fever, pain, and infection.  I was waiting to figure out if what I had was bacterial in nature or something more serious like staph.  Hopped up on Hydrocodone I walked into my place of employment to get laid off for the second time in a little over a year.  Once again it wasn’t because of anything I did.  Believe me medicated is the way to go if you have to clean out your desk and do the walk of shame out the building.

Luckily the infection turned out to not be staph, unluckily the company I worked for closed down about a month later.  No chance for hire and fire number three.  This meant looking for a job again.  I hate finding a new job for many reasons but mostly because once again I have to pretend to be someone I’m not.  There is so many reports about being careful what you put on facebook, twitter, etc. because apparently it doesn’t matter if you are the most qualified for the job but what you do with your life in the hours they are not paying you.

I was never was really myself at work anyway.  After almost four years I had started to share bits and small pieces, sometimes still I’d completely lie.  It must be nice to just be able to tell someone about your weekend without having to consciously select every word you are going to say before saying  it.  For this and other reasons I once again I decided that this time I was actually make a go of freelancing while simultaneously trying to find more stable employment.  I find clients a little less concerned about my personal life and don’t go researching you on the internet.

I’m more of a tortoise than a hare so of course the freelance gigs didn’t just start rolling in.  Plus I got distracted with writing.  Shortly before getting let go from my job I had rediscovered writing.  Fan Fiction wasn’t going to pay the bills but it’s kept me sane more than once and gave me the bravery to branch out.  In November I wrote a 50,000+ word fiction novel (I’m still editing).  In December I started doing freelance tv show and movie reviews.  It gave me the bravery to challenge myself to watch a movie a day.  Then with adding some other ideas lead to the creation of this blog.

Now while all this was happening the design part has been limping along.  In November I got my first Fiverr gig. This month I’ve become a Level 1 seller.  Also as of this month I have done enough other freelance work since I was let go that I need to use both hands to count.  I watched my 100th new to me movie on April 10th and my blog now has had over 700 views.  No I’m not rolling in dough but I feel that things are finally truly starting for me.  And the best thing, I’m still who I am.  Second best thing, not having to tap dance over the dreaded so what did you do this weekend.

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Posted by on April 14, 2013 in introspective, Videos


Morning Inspiration – Flickering Lights

I haven’t written a poem in about twenty years.  I don’t remember the last poem, but I remember the when because it was about the same time I recited Please Master by Allen Ginsberg in front of my college creative writing class.  I hated the teacher; reciting this poem, she had asked us to recite our favorite, was my passive-aggressive attempt at revenge.  At the time I was still in the early stages of my love with the work of Allen Ginsberg.  And while Please Master wasn’t my favorite, it would serve my purpose.  Would have served had I not, partway through, started visualizing Allen Ginsberg, bespeckled, balding head, and greying grizzled beard, naked on his knees reciting this to his love Peter. I got a fit of giggles that I couldn’t seem to quell.  I didn’t realize then what I realize now, that sensuality and sexuality is beauty no matter the (adult) age, size, and shape of the deliverer.  But that’s a story for another time.

I hated this teacher because she had a clear bias of acceptable poetry.  There was one woman in my class who wrote the most beautiful heartwarming poetry.  But the teacher deemed it “Hallmark cards” and dismissed it.  Another woman wrote angtsy gothic crap that I could take or leave but the teacher lapped it up like cream.  My best friend, also in the class, wrote some surprisingly interesting poems.  Not surprising that they were interesting, but in all the years I had known her prior I hadn’t realize poetry was in her.  She had hit or miss success with the teacher.  Me, as usual, I did enough to skate by not really caring to conform to the teacher’s whims to impress her.

But this morning I watched this short film by Joseph Gordon-Levitt’s online production company/art collaborative HitRECord called Flickering Lights.

After the video finished, these words came tumbling into my head. Repeated themselves in a way that said if I didn’t find pen and paper that moment and write them down, I would sincerely regret it. It may not be a great poem, hell it may not even be good.  But after twenty years I wrote a poem and that’s good enough for me.

Untitled, 3/16/2013

Seeing something
so simple,
so pure,
so beautiful

Makes you want to

Get out of bed
you sleepy head

The sun is shining,
the birds are singing

Don’t lay there another minute
for there is art to be made

The moment is NOW
The time…
is fleeting

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Posted by on March 16, 2013 in Videos, Writing


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I don’t know who Adam Hills is, but I like him

Warning: Video is not work safe due to profanity.

I’m usually not one to cheer on someone bashing someone else but this time, I’m going to cheer.  Really Joan Rivers, it’s 2013 and you are still making fat jokes?  If you want to trash talk about Adele than feel free to attack that hideous dress she wore to the Grammys.  I love you Adele but you should’ve left that fabric for curtains, or a couch or better yet burned it.  Your Oscar dress was much more beautiful.   But back to the crone who thinks fat is still funny.

You know why people don’t really do fat jokes anymore Joan?  Because they are stupid, unimaginative, and are pretty much just used by bullies. In the clip that’s featured above there isn’t one funny joke.  Oh look you can puff yourself up and expand your arms, wow you must be a great impressionist.  And because she’s fat it means she can swallow anything.  Really???  Is it just me or does the laughter sound really canned?

Now Adam Hills, Australian comedian, says pretty much everything I felt when I initially saw the Joan Rivers clip.  That being said, I don’t completely hate Joan Rivers, I have been known to watch her Fashion Police show more than once.  But I think physical attributes is just stupid fodder for jokes.  You can change an outfit but losing weight is not as easy as people who’ve never had to do it make it out to be.  Besides who says we all have to be thin anyway?

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Posted by on March 3, 2013 in Videos


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Today’s Theme Song 2/28/2013

Show me what I’m looking for by Carolina Liar

What I so love about this song is that it can mean so many different things, depending on who is listening to it and when.  It’s been part of the soundtrack of many of my stories; someone seeking redemption, someone finally finding love, someone just trying to untangle the puzzle in their head. Like I said many different meanings.  It’s been stuck in my head for the last few days.  I think because in four short days, I become the Answer to the Ultimate Question of Life, the Universe, and Everything.  That’s 42 for those who haven’t read Douglas Adams’ Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. Either that or I’ve known all along and just to afraid to go for it.  As with most things, the answer is a little bit of column A and a little bit of column B.  Sometimes you really want a bolt of lightning or some sign that tells you that you are on the right path.  Yesterday I was startled awake by the feeling that someone whispered the word Yes into my ear.  Maybe that was my answer.

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Posted by on February 28, 2013 in introspective, Videos


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