I found this article (5 Myths of Polyamory Debunked, see excerpt below) well written and very truthful to my own experience. I can’t personally attest to the myth about kids because I don’t have children. But I’ve seen children of other polyamorous people and see them as no more functional or dysfunctional than children of monogamous households.
Unfortunately like any group outside the norm, people have a skewed view because of media. Shows like Sister Wives and polyamorous couples on talk shows give just a snapshot of the many flavors of poly practice.
Currently I’ve been involved with my partner for almost 13 years, he has another partner and he’s been with her for 17. We’ve all lived together for a little over 10 years but it was more happenstance than plan that it ended up that way. Me and his other partner do not consider “sister wives” and we have no sexual relationship. More like BFFs although I have called her my heterosexual life mate. Mainly cause we tend to bicker at times like an old married couple. We are not constrained to just being in a relationship with him. We both have had other relationships in the past just none currently.
I would like other relationships but not because something is missing from current one. There are things we don’t share in common and that’s okay. I’ve know I wanted more than one relationship since I was a child, before I even knew there was a word like polyamory or that it was an option. I wanted a farm were all my loves could live and we’d share common spaces as well as have our own houses. I’m an introvert so I need my own space. I haven’t achieve that, but one day hope to. I also hope that there is a time where the way I live my life is accepted and not seen as the freak show the media tends to report it as. Studies like this one I think will help.
Excerpt: Researchers estimate that as many as 5 percent of Americans are currently in relationships involving consensual nonmonogamy — that is, permission to go outside the couple looking for love or sex.
The boundaries in these relationships are remarkably varied, with some couples negotiating one-off “swinging” or partner-swapping experiences. and others forming stable bonds among three, four or five partners simultaneously. The latter is a version of polyamory, relationships in which people have multiple partnerships at once with the full knowledge of all involved.